Why I am not attending TF16

Period.
Period.

Alright. Let’s see if I can provide all of the relevant links here, so anyone who is not caught up on the Tribal Fest situation can get caught up, before I share my opinion.

On Sunday, this happened… although at the time, no names were attached to it: Public Statement Regarding Tribal Fest. Even without names attached, the people who were sharing it were people who I know and trust within the dance community.

Today, we received two separate responses from Tribal Fest, one from Kajira and one from Chuck (one of the perpetrators of the events mentioned in the Public Statement).

So my thoughts on this? I stand with the teachers and vendors who are pulling out of the event. I share their feeling of having their trust violated.

Regarding Kajira’s response, I believe her when she says she did not know about the secret group. I believe her when she says how upset she is. On the other hand, I have heard from multiple sources that she did not, in fact, reach out to them to apologize. Since I am not directly involved on either side, I cannot know for certain what happened, only what I feel in my gut.

My gut feeling? No one would pull out of Tribal Fest lightly, not when they had already been announced as a teacher, not when they had a years-long relationship with the event, not when setting up there as a vendor served as a large chunk of their annual income, not when being accepted to teach there for the first time next year was going to give their career a big leg-up. As such, I am choosing to believe the teachers and vendors when they say that the official response they received before going public was insufficient.

It has been promised that despite the number of teachers and vendors pulling out, TF16 will still continue next year. I want to make it clear that I am not going to judge or think less of anyone who chooses to attend, for whatever reason. However, I will not be joining you. Why? For me, Tribal Fest was never about the fact that it was Tribal Fest. It was not about Kajira and Chuck and Sebastopol. It was about the friends and teachers and vendors I wanted to see. The people are what truly makes an event. The people are why I go to LVBDI year after year even though I kind of hate Vegas. And the people are why I will NOT be attending Tribal Fest next year, because most of the people I know and love will not be there. An event is not a name or a place. It is a community, and that community can be relocated or renamed.

There has been some push within the community to go anyway, to support Kajira. They say it’s unfair that she should be punished for her husband’s actions. I agree. It is unfair. But that doesn’t change the fact that it is going to happen. Actions have consequences that reach beyond yourself. Chuck’s behavior hurt a lot of people, and in turn, a lot of people will be hurt as a result of those actions coming to light. Kajira will be hurt by the damage done to her event, as well as whatever emotions she is feeling personally. Local businesses in Sebastopol will be hurt by the smaller attendance at the event. The teachers and vendors who stay will be hurt by lower class enrollment and less shoppers. The people who choose to attend will be hurt by having less awesome teachers, vendors and performers. The photographers and videographers will be hurt by having less performers there ordering from them. And so on and so on.

Does it suck? Oh yeah. But that’s the way things are. Any bad action and its resulting consequences ripple far beyond just the perpetrator and the initial victim. That said, my primary sympathy is still with the victims.

Will I ever return to Tribal Fest? It’s possible. But not in 2016. I’m leaving it to other dancers to attend, and tell me how they felt. Did they feel safe? Did they feel welcome? Did they feel like all of the perpetrators of this hateful event were expunged? Do they feel like the event can return to its previous wonderful reputation? If they say yes to all of these things, then maybe a few years down the road I’ll feel willing to give it a second chance. But broken trust is not easily mended. In the meantime, I want to explore some of the other events I’ve heard good things about, and visit with other parts of the global dance community.

So that’s my .02. Again, I’d like to reiterate that I don’t blame anyone who has decided they want to continue to support the event, and I wish good luck to Kajira and any teacher, vendor, or student who chooses to be a part of TF 2016.

I’m Dancing at Waking Persephone!

Photos by Carrie Meyer of The Dancer's Eye.
Photos by Carrie Meyer of The Dancer’s Eye.

So this information has been sitting quietly over on the Performances section of my page, but it’s about time I made an official announcement… I will be performing in the Saturday night Gala Show at Waking Persephone on October 18th! I am really excited about this opportunity. Unlike Tribal Fest and LVBDI, WP only has a couple of evening showcases, so there’s a lot less performance time available. As such it’s a really big honor to be one of the performers chosen to share the stage with the event’s teachers!

And what will I be performing? Well, I knew right away that Waking Persephone, as an event for dark and unusual belly dance, was the perfect place for a second performance of my Fem Bot piece that I created for Hafla Con! It’s hard to find a venue that’s appropriate for such off-the-wall feminist sci-fi belly dance, so I’m happy to have a second chance to stamp gears on my face and protest the patriarchy.

Smash the Patriarchy!
Smash the Patriarchy!

As it turns out, I will also be making use of the skills I’ve learned hosting Open Stage to work as the Stage Manager for Sunday Night’s Underworld Ball. I think I’m up to the task and I hope I can catch some glimpses of the performers while I’m keeping things running smoothly back stage but at the very least I’m sure I’ll be able to hear all of the awesome live music!

If you will be in the Seattle Washington area October 18-19th and would like to attend one or both of these great shows, click here to buy your tickets! And please don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to me if you’re a reader of my blog or a fan of my FB page! I really do love meeting people but I’m a little shy and bad at initiating conversations. Just look for the fem-bot wrapped up in a giant orange sweater.

I am only here to dance.

'Nuff Said.
‘Nuff Said.

Today’s post is inspired by a combination of my own experiences and experiences related to me by other dancers and things I have witnessed being said and done to my fellow dancers. I think it gives a pretty accurate picture of what dancers have to deal with on a regular basis.

When I am at a show, my only obligation is to dance, and hopefully entertain you with my dance. That is the end of it. I am not there to flirt with you. I am not there to give you my number. I am not there to be catcalled on the street, walking from my car to the venue. I am not there to “shake it” even if there is some vaguely shaking-like motion in my dance. I am not there for you to leer at. I am not there to hug you. I am not there to answer your questions about my marital status, my age, my hair color, or any other personal question you can dream up. I am not obligated to pose for photos with you and your friends, though I may agree to if you’re nice about it. I am not there to fulfill your fantasies or live up to your stereotypes. I am not there for you to put dollars in my bra.

And if you are unhappy about any of these, don’t try to lecture me about “customer service.” Putting up with your looming presence and inappropriate comments is not in my job description, and if you are not paying me directly to dance for you, you are not even my customer or my employer, you are just a random face in the crowd, and you need to get back into the crowd.

After a show, if I am not rushed and it’s appropriate for the venue, I may well put on my cover-up and hang out and answer questions. I will be happy to tell you why my dance looks different than the belly dance you see at Shish Kebab House, but I won’t agree with you that mine is better, because guess what, I know those other dancers and I love their dancing. I will recommend teachers for you, or for your girlfriend. But if you make some awkward creepy comment about how you wish your girlfriend danced like me, wink wink, I do not have to stand there and take it. I will tell you where my troupe is dancing next. Unless you’re staring at my chest, in which case I’ll vaguely state that you should check our Facebook page.

I am a dancer, and I am only here to dance.